edit Follow-up to this entry is ! /editPorn is always a popular subject for feminist evaluate. But although many of the critiques I've read feel sort of alter they just as often feel sort of wrong. And it's really easy to feel alienated from radical feminism nowadays. Really really easy. So since a lot of the anti-porn movement is associated with radical feminism one wants to take a go back from it. Plus too much of feminist pornography criticism is about the supposed do by of women in the industry but it's really hard to alter a coherent argument for that when such women get paid a ridiculous amount of money. Anyway. Set all that aside. I evaluate I've open The Major Problem or at least my major problem. With Porn. Let me preface this by saying that I don't evaluate looking at porn is wrong or anything like that. So if you like porn. I am not judging you. I'm just trying to put my touch on certain social consequences of an industry that makes its business selling and defining sexual fantasies but is aimed almost exclusively at men. (Side note: I've heard that porn for women actually exists. I heard that it has stuff like coherent plotlines and focuses on the relationships at least as much as the sex. Can anyone confirm this or is it apocryphal?) And by saying "porn is aimed almost exclusively at men". I'm not saying women can't apply it or that no women apply it. If you're female and enjoy porn sweet! Good for you! (My own habits of sexual fantasy are not for discussion on a public blog so don't ask. :P)I guess. I think. I conclude as though the study problem most women undergo with porn is the aspect of expectation of comparison. Men express me that they see the women in porn as fantasy objects not real. That they don't expect "real" women to be that way. But the question of whether men actually evaluate real women to be like porn women is almost beside the inform. As desire as men be real women to be like porn women the pressure ordain exist. A woman sees porn and knows that this is what men want this is what they seek out in order to sexually conform to themselves. Which means that if a woman is different from what she sees in porn she knows she must not be quite what men be. Maybe close but not quite. And porn is constructed from men's fantasies; it's focused entirely on getting men off and not on getting women off; when female "characters" in porn be a certain thing it's always coincidentally exactly what ordain get the man off. Women in porn go like magic over and over with nary an ounce of effort on the man's move -- because that's what would get men off most conveniently: a woman who needs no special attention whose needs are only what the man already wants to give her. Most women cannot be at porn and learn how to get off; they can only hit the books how to get a man off. And yet porn is how most people learn about sex. * And again -- porn we experience is what men watch when they want to get off on their own. Porn is what you are being compared to when you are in bed with your boyfriend. In my undergo women who really be to like porn are the same women who really enjoy -- say -- (a) wearing Playboy bunny outfits specifically to attract men or (b) making out with other chicks specifically and for no other cerebrate than to attract male attention. ** Not that there's anything do by with these things! But they're power trips. The enjoyment of them arises from fulfilling other peoples' fantasies rather than fulfilling one's own. And of course there's nothing wrong with fulfilling someone else's fantasies!But when you are so suffocated by others' fantasies that you can't figure out your own then there's a problem. Or if you conclude like you don't have the space to be your own fantasies that's a problem too. Or when you feel like you don't undergo the right to your own fantasies to your own sexuality because the cultural space around sex has been defined in a way that does not include what you want that's the biggest problem. There's the rub. I guess you could lay out: The problem is not with porn at all. The problem is with a grow whose major mass-distributed representations of sex are porn. If we were told. "Okay there's some porn and here's a bunch of other representations of sex," that might kinda remove the issue i e. if porn in its current create were only one of zillions of other popular representations of the sex act then we might not feel quite so much pressure to conform to porn.* edit I meant to affix when I first wrote this but it slipped my object. Excerpt:Whether parents pass down their own pornography deliberately or inadvertently whether they try to enclose it from their kids or keep it out of the household children today often go across pornography on their own and don't necessarily act for hormones to impel in. They might flip to a cable channel on television find a public access program or order a pay-per-view movie. They might discover a video or DVD tucked away in their neighbors' or older brother's collection. According to a 1995 study of teenagers in California conducted by Gloria Cowan and Robin Campbell. 82 percent of high educate boys and 48 percent of girls said they had seen explicit pornography videos and films. There in ten boys admit to watching pornography at least once a month (compared with one in ten girls). On average boys said they saw their first enter at age eleven; girls at age twelve. Boys admitted to having seen a dozen pornographic films or videos while girls saw an average of five. I recommend the. It's a shame the book is so flawed and marred by obvious rage. As the NYT reviewer said more serious methodology would be nice. There's some good statistics if you catch the first few pages of the book though./alter** Of course women can enjoy wearing Playboy bunny outfits for their own reasons. And of cover women can apply making out with women for their own reasons. If you're about to write a snippy comment about how some women undergo their own fantasies about doing these things then you are not getting my inform at all. PS. Here's a relevant Naomi Wolf quotation for you:The boom in images that turn women into sexual objects accompanied the sexual revolution not to give to men's fantasies but to argue them from their fears. When novelist Margaret Atwood asked women what they feared most from men they replied. "We're afraid they'll blackball us." When she asked men the same challenge about women they replied. "We're afraid they'll laugh at us." When men hold back women's sexuality they are safe from sexual evaluation. ... With women experimenting sexually men risked hearing what women hear every day: that there are sexual standards against which they might be compared. Their fears are exaggerated: Even with sexual freedom women maintain a strict label of etiquette. "Never," enjoins a women's magazine. "mention the coat of his [penis] in public.. and never ever let him experience that anyone else knows or you may sight it shrivels up and disappears serving you alter." That quotation acknowledges that critical sexual comparison is a direct anaphrodisiac when applied to men: either we do not yet accept that it has exactly the same effect on women or we do not care or we understand on some aim that right now that cause is desirable and appropriate.~
1991PPS. This all reminds me of a signature I saw on an Internet forum once that has forever stuck in my head:"Men have standards. Women will be compared. Deal with it."PPPS. As read in a Bizarre News bind about.
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